Hey, y’all! Thanks again for your support of this little undertaking. I hope you’ll stick with me while I figure out how to navigate this thing and keep this bad boy on track.
So, bare with me while I specifically speak with my black people this go around.
So, hey, black people, what’s happening?! I hope those naturals and fades have some act right in them this week…because mine does not.
Now, my people, don’t be mad with me now because I know we are having conversations nationwide about pulling everyone up into a new understanding of the black struggle, and it’s ridiculously amazing.
However, we mustn’t forget to include ourselves in this enlightenment that we are seeking to bestow unto others. So, black folks, I’m gonna tell you something y’all don’t wanna hear…you’re homophobic…as fuck.
GADZOOKS MATTMAN, YOU’VE REALLY DONE IT THIS TIME
Brothers and sisters, for as long as many of us can remember, there has been a long standing tradition of a “what happens in this house, stays in this house” mentality within our families. This mantra not only applies to our family’s personal business, but to the injustice we inflict upon each other within our own community as well. What does this mean? Black folks simply do not want to talk about or be held accountable for our treatment of the most vulnerable in our already systemically oppressed demographic.
Much like experiences with racism, this isn’t hearsay brothers and sisters, we’re speaking from within our experiences and the experiences of those like us; gay, black people born into homophobic black, families. As I said, my family is included in this indictment as well. Why, you ask? Because they’re homophobic as shit too. So much so that my mother, father (god rest his soul), oldest sister, and twin brother all have and hold onto ferocious contempt of my lifestyle. So much so that it has left our relationships in literal shambles.
Damn, you gone do us like that?
I would love to explain just how paradoxical and mind fucking this conundrum is, but it’s gonna take time to properly explain, dissect and present all the dimensions that make up this complicated issue.
Black people are a systemically oppressed people, and gay people have been a systemically oppressed people. So in being black and gay, you are thrust, without choice, into both struggles, only to find that neither parties ever really cared for your participation in the rally, even though you don’t really have a choice in choosing either side.
My nigga, James
“Being attacked by white people only made me flare hotly into eloquence, being attacked by black people, I must confess, made me break down and cry” – James Baldwin
James Baldwin was a gay, black, writer, essayist, and civil rights activist. Something of a gay Martin Luther King Jr, really; he rallied, marched, wrote, screamed, bled, and carried the civil rights movement on his shoulders. Only to be reminded every step of the way, by black folks, that he was nothing more than a faggot. James crusaded for us four decades and grappled with bigotry from his own people at every turn, and 30 years after his death, there is much of the same hatred being thrown at our own, by our own.
Where is this going, God damnit?!
As I mentioned, the issue of homophobia, like any issue, is multilayered and multidimensional, also many argue, that black people are “more” homophobic than any other ethnic group, and I am inclined to fiercely disagree with them, homophobia simply manifests differently within the black community. So, in order to best explain each layer and dimension, we must tackle them one at a time.
I mentioned and quoted James Baldwin a bit earlier (partially because he’s my spirit animal) because he is a fantastic reference point when speaking about black folks’ issues with gay people. Baldwin was constantly attacked by black people and black leaders for being a faggot, a sissy boy, and not being a “real man”. For even while Baldwin was on the front lines, being sprayed with hoses and attacked by dogs; he was still constantly told he wasn’t good enough and continued to be bombarded with assaults on his sexuality and masculinity.
OH. SNAP. THERE IT IS. THERE IT FUCKING IS. HERE’S WHAT IT’S ABOUT. MASCULINITY.
Masculinity, “being a man”, a “boss”, a “real nigga” are giant staples for men in the black community. Staples that were formed from about the 1960s to present day. There is great importance and pressure placed on these ideas, ideas that were born and formed by the immense oppression that black men in America have and continue to endure. For during a time when black men were called “boy”, slave, nigger; a time when we were treated not only as less than men, but less than human; a time when we were someone’s punching bag, the victims of lynchings, rapings, metaphorical and literal castration (much of which still happens today — under many different guises) was born the need to assert ourselves as powerful black men and claim back some of the dignity that had been robbed from us for over a century.
In the midst of the development of black manhood culture, was born a culture of hyper-masculinity, hyper-masculinity includes being a “real nigga”, “gangster”, and my favorite “walking like a man”. As this culture flourished, it became a way of life for many black folks; constantly asserting your blackness and your manhood in order to garner respect and rightful treatment from our white counterparts.
So, for many, many black folks, those of us who identify as LGBTQ within the black community, are tarnishing the work of our ancestors and civil rights leaders who fought so gallantly for our rights and privileges in this country. By parading around like “women and little bitches” and sleeping with white men, they believe that we are destroying the idea of black manhood that they have worked so hard to create. So, from that is born a kind of intense hatred and contempt for any of us (black LGBTQ) that do not fit or refuse to conform to these created and prepackaged gender roles.
Sadly, what my black folks fail to realize is that we are committing the very same acts of hatred and bigotry that were and still are inflicted on us by our white counterparts. Hating one another based on our nonunderstanding of our differences, even while crusading for the same causes, namely, black equality.
I Know there haven’t been very many Jokes…I have absolutely no idea to be funny about all of this…. Kevin Hart…Where You At…
Even though I speak harshly of black people in this moment, I obviously can’t indict all black people on this charge. Not all my brothers share the same idea of masculinity and manhood, and some of us have even made mother fucking bank, making us laugh at their contempt for what people think black men have to do. “I’m ret ta go”…”Okayyyyy”
Additionally, while people like: Nina Simone, Angela Davis, James Baldwin, Laverne Cox, Brittany Ferrell, Alexis Templeton, and even myself, did and continue to crusade for black rights in the midst of ferocious, obvious contempt for our lifestyles.
There are many solutions to this conundrum our community is plagued with, and I feel that they’re even doable in our lifetimes, however, before we can even talk about solutions. We have to go to Church. Black Church that is….
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